{"id":47,"date":"2020-03-14T08:05:03","date_gmt":"2020-03-14T08:05:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harshvardhandutta.com\/blog\/?p=47"},"modified":"2020-03-14T08:05:05","modified_gmt":"2020-03-14T08:05:05","slug":"to-give-and-forgive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harshvardhandutta.com\/blog\/to-give-and-forgive\/","title":{"rendered":"To Give and Forgive"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Recently, while having chai, in a social circle, I accidentally spilt some on a gentleman\u2019s laptop. And it went kaput. I immediately apologised and offered to pay for the damages. The gentleman seemed very pissed. Two days after the incident, he called me and said that his Mac was beyond repair as motherboard was damaged. I went to meet him and offered him to take my Mac of the same make which was bought two years ago as opposed to his 6 year old Mac.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The gentleman insisted on having a new laptop. It irritated me but I still gave in because I realised the mistake was mine and I didn\u2019t want to create a scene. So, we opened Amazon and there was a Mac Air for INR 65,000. But the gentlemen insisted that he wanted to buy one higher memory that was priced at over INR 100,000.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, I argued that I am already buying you a new one, so please take the lesser model and it will serve your purpose. My argument was: \u201cYour 6 year old laptop is damaged and you are getting a new one, with 128 GB as opposed to 256 that you are demanding.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center\">What he said in return shocked me \u201c You have to compensate for the lost data.\u201d I was livid. I still told him that it was an accident. I could have chosen to offer you a 6 year old model at half the price, but dude I am giving you new one. It\u2019s more than a fair deal. But he insisted that I also need to compensate him for the lost data. I was livid beyond words. I bought him the higher model and also told him that he was taking advantage of my generous nature. The gentleman walked away.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In hindsight, I think what I did was not wrong. My friends told me that I was fooled, that I was silly, and some joked to spill coffee on their laptops. Still, I think what I did was NOT&nbsp; wrong. I may have gotten a setback in money, but my karma currency stayed intact or perhaps increased. I did not express anger which I would have in my younger years. I gave and forgave. I practiced forgiving him for a day, and blessed him, ensuring I don\u2019t become bitter. But yes, not having chai with him again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Unfortunately, incidents like this make a good person skeptical and we start losing trust in society. If you believe in karma, you know that it is all a cycle. I am glad that I still trust people and do not look at any relationship transactional in nature, or affected by difference in opinion. Yes, I have practiced this.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let me know what you feel of the incident.&nbsp;<br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Recently, while having chai, in a social circle, I accidentally spilt some on a gentleman\u2019s laptop. And it went kaput. 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